When you own your story, that is when you will truly accept yourself.
That is when the self judgement stops.
That’s when the inner critic is silenced.
You finally feel good enough and the when the confidence comes.
And remember – all confidence is, is belief.
So when you shift your belief into decide to accept yourself today, so much more becomes available to you.
You have nothing left to hide.
And the thing is shame cannot exist in truth.
So when you accept and embrace your truth, the same dissolves. The doubt diminishes. The certainty comes. The decision making gets easier.
The power of owning your own story and not being a victim to your circumstances will be one of the most powerful things you experience in your life.
You are not your past.
You are not your trauma.
You are not your thoughts.
Beauties - I want to show you exactly how powerful owning your own story can be. In this video, I am coming to you with Essence Turner who is a remarkable coach that helps women who experienced childhood abuse & abandonment feel whole again.
I am absolutely inspired by this beauties story and in our chat we go deep into the power of owning your own personal story and the importance of who you surround yourself on your journey.
Essence also offers so much personal insight and wisdom to help inspire & empower you to make the same shifts in your life. She also gets into her top tips for releasing shame and facing the discomfort that comes along with radical growth.
There is so much here for you in this chat and I’m honored and beyond grateful to have had the chance to interview this amazing woman!
In fact, she inspired me to own my story in an entirely different way. More to come on this...
LINK TO OUR SOULFUL CHAT:
XO - Elyse
💟 Let’s talk about confidence 💟
When I have the feeling of confidence running through me, anything becomes possible.
The most powerful feelings surge through my body and fuel me at the highest level.
⚡️My doubt diminishes.
⚡️I become fully present in the current moment.
⚡️I am unafraid of failure because I am confident in myself and trust that I can come back from anything life presents me with.
The other feelings that come as a by product of the confidence are -
💥 I feel secure.
💥 I feel worthy.
💥 I feel courageous.
💥 I feel certain.
💥 I feel happy.
I love feeling empowered to take confident, action, NOW.
Think about how much more becomes available to you when you take action based from a feeling of confidence 🤯💥⚡️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When you feel confident, what more becomes available to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
What becomes possible for you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Who do you show up as?⠀⠀
Something powerful to reflect on today beautiful.
XO - Elyse
And PS - When you are ready to go in this journey, I’ve got you fully covered. PM me to learn more about what my 90 Day CAN Program can do for you 💝
Nothing is worse than being stuck in the pattern of “I don’t know”.
When you don’t know, that is dis-empowering your ability to decide at the highest level.
So many times, my clients come to me and say “I don’t know what I want or what’s right for me”
And the first thing we do is empower you to decide 🤯.
😱 What if I make the wrong decision?
😱 What if people judge me for the decision I made?
😱 What if I fail?
😱What if everything goes wrong?
😱 What if I lose everything?
All of these questions that come up are totally normal but that doesn’t make them any less scary.
Empowering yourself to decide is one of those things that can
feel overwhelming as the anxiety floods you when it comes time to make a decision.
So we avoid doing it because the feelings that come along with the doubt, uncertainty and fear during the decision making process are too uncomfortable. The feelings are so strong that the second they come, we run for the door every time.
I know this to be true because I’ve lived it. When the scaries came, I straight up turned into an Olympic Track Star and ran as fast as I could in the other direction 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Instead of facing it, I shopped. I turned to wine. I binged on Netflix. I did everything I could to distract myself in an attempt to fill that void. And on many occasions, I blatantly avoided making decisions all together and lost precious time living with the same results because of it.
But what happened when I actually faced it?
💟 I became free.
💟 I fell in love with myself.
💟 I launched my business.
💟 I created a life I was excited to get out of bed for.
💟 I felt ALIVE again. And I am not just talking about living…I am talking, fully present with life running through my veins ALIVE.
😵 Was it hard? Hell yes it was.
😭 Were there times I laid on the floor in a puddle of tears? Sure did.
🥳 Was it worth it? 1000% yes.
Everything changed when I faced the reality and created the confidence to boldly & unapologetically make the hard decisions and commit to what was right for me.
And when you are ready to do the same – I’ve got you. I will be there to hold space for you and guide you as you find your way. I will help to empower you to decide what’s right for you and teach you exactly how to create the life that you are looking for.
🔥 A life that will set your soul on fire and will blow your mind because you wont even believe that you actually did it. This is my promise to you as your coach.
You can overcome every single thought that has ever held you back, convinced you that you aren’t good enough, filled you with stress & anxiety and kept you from feeling free.
You have the opportunity to see things in a completely different way. Are you ready to answer the call? 🥳
XO - Elyse
This pic popped in my Facebook memories from 3 years ago and WOW. Just wow. It is insane to think about how much has changed in my life...
🤯 I honestly don’t even recognize this version of me.
👀 What I see here is -
💋 Someone who was consumed with being perfect - having the perfect job, the perfect life, the perfect picture for my IG feed.
💄 I was so focused on how my life looked from the outside in that I neglected to give my attention to what was happening on the inside.
💸 I was so consumed with creating a massive career because I truly believed that with success came validation and acceptance.
Sadly - despite becoming widely successful, making a ton of money while traveling the world creating beauty products - the feelings of validation and acceptance never came...
So instead I hid.
😭 I hid the fact that I was -
✖️Constantly eating my feelings
✖️Had an awful internal dialogue that consisted of me telling myself I was terrible everyday
✖️How I was putting myself last because I was doing everything for everyone else because I was desperate to be liked and accepted
✖️ Hiding from my dreams because I didn’t think I was enough and I allowed myself to remain paralyzed by the potential chance that I would fail and be rejected because of it
😭 I was in pain but I hid it all and painted my mask on everyday in hopes nobody would notice the wounded little girl that was still bleeding inside of me.
✖️I truly thought, put more lipstick on and you will get through this.
✖️I had the thought “just keep smiling to cover the pain”
✖️I hid behind my career to ensure I remained invisible because I did not believe I was worthy of being seen and had convinced myself that “I was meant to be a behind the scenes kind of gal”
I see so clearly now that was all a series of BS stories that I told myself and that none of it was true.
My first coach once told me “I don’t know how you’ve been this successful when you are so insecure and hard on yourself”
When she said that to me, it pierced my heart because I knew she was right and I genuinely don’t know how I got so far on just drive and ambition without the true confidence to back it up.
🥳 Now - life looks a lot different.
🙌🏼 My job title no longer defines me
🙌🏼 I don’t hide from being seen because I know how worthy and deserving I am of being seen and heard
🙌🏼 I no longer need money to make me feel secure
🙌🏼 I face challenges head on and no longer fear failure or rejection in a way that paralyzes me from taking action
🙌🏼 I do not change who I am to people please because I no longer NEED to be liked & trust the people who are meant to be in my life will love me exactly as I am
🙌🏼 I no longer tell myself a sob story to empower my inner victim which had kept me in a state of disempowerment for far too long
🙌🏼 I no longer beat myself up everyday for what isn’t and instead focus on the beauty of what is
How did I make this change?
⚡️I went all in on me and fully committed to change
⚡️I took a chance and hired a coach who showed me how my mind worked and how my thoughts were creating every result I didn’t want in my life
⚡️I let go of all of my limiting beliefs about myself and created new ones that cemented the confidence in myself and my capabilities
⚡️I stopped living in fear of the “what if” and DECIDED to commit to creating the results I desired
⚡️I proactively failed again and again learning and growing through each experience without making the failure mean anything about me
⚡️I stopped telling myself “I can’t” and empowered myself to fully believe that “I CAN”
I started over and created a life I’m head over heels in love with and the most beautiful part is, I now teach women everyday how to do the same 💝.
AND - It’s the most rewarding and valuable work I’ve ever done in my life.
Why? Because something SO POWERFUL happens when you start working from the inside out. You see things about yourself that you can’t unsee and it becomes so clear on exactly how you are holding yourself back in life and in your biz.
If you are ready to gain this type of clarity and learn how to make the same shifts in your life, I’m here to help guide you on exactly how to create the result you are looking for.
XO - Elyse